Divorce raises a variety of feelings and emotions, from anger to sadness, to confusion, to resentment. What you are feeling will impact what moving forward looks like to you and your children. For some, empowerment should be a focus, while others may need to expend their efforts on forgiveness.
Below are just a few ideas and suggestions that you can use to make 2018 a year in which you recover from your divorce. Keep in mind that what works for someone else may not work for you—hone in on what you need to make 2018 a time for healing and forward progress.
- Resolve to Accept Your Emotional Reactions.
You may try to be tough around your ex-spouse or children, and even your friends and family, but remember that it is okay not to be okay. Resolve to accept your emotional reactions this year. You may feel angry or sad or disappointed, and that is okay. There may be triggers that set off irrational emotional outbursts, and that is okay too. Remember, grieving is not a sign of weakness.
For 2018, resolve to tap into your emotional supports as needed, whether that is family and friends or a mental health professional. You will be going through some complicated emotions, and you need an outlet to deal with those feelings.
- Resolve to Love Yourself.
It is extremely common for your self-worth to decrease after a divorce. Keep in mind that just because a relationship didn’t work out does not mean that you are inadequate or inferior. Give yourself a break. You are a worthwhile person all by yourself. You do not need another person to determine who you are.
For 2018, resolve to focus on you and your self-growth. Is there something you have always wanted to do or try? Make some time for that cooking class or that trip. Self-love for you may simply mean taking better care of yourself or spending some extra time with a few good books. Whatever loving yourself means to you, resolve to make it a priority in 2018.
- Resolve to Take Responsibility for Your Healing.
Your friends and family will want to help you, but only YOU can really start the healing process. You cannot blame anyone or expect someone else to do it for you. If you continue to blame someone or something for the divorce, it limits your ability to heal fully.
This coming year, take the time you need to heal. Understand that this process will take time. It will require reflecting, awareness, and a conscious choice to move forward. You are the only one that can make those steps. Face your emotions and do what you need to do to heal.
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