For some, divorce is one of the most stressful times of their life. However, the process is short-term and you can get through it. You can use the following tips and tricks to help you reduce the stress that you experience as you work through this process and adjust to your new life after your divorce.
- Pay attention to your emotional needs.
When you go through a divorce, you are going to have a lot of emotion, from uncertainty, to fear, to happiness, to excitement. You may be going through emotions that you may not even recognize. You may not understand why you are angry or anxious, and it can take some real soul-searching to know what you need.
Take some time to figure out what you need emotionally as you work through this process. Finding a support group, therapist, and good friends and family can be vital for you.
- Stop negative self-talk.
It’s easy to dwell on what went wrong with your relationship or think about things that you should have done. However, focusing too much on the past will ultimately lead to negative self-talk, which can damage you psychologically and emotionally.
You cannot change the past, so learn your lesson from it and keep moving forward. Remember, no one is perfect, and you are not expected to get things right all of the time. Give yourself a break.
- Keep your physical needs in mind.
You may have heard of the “divorce diet.” While losing weight can be very healthy, it can also be dangerous if it happens too quickly. Stress can trigger weight loss that can actually lead to long-term health issues. On the other hand, many people stress eat. Filling yourself with empty calories will decrease your energy and may pack on the pounds. Finding the right balance can be difficult.
Exercise is a great stress reliever. If you tend to eat for comfort, adding some exercise into your routine can not only counteract those extra calories, but it can boost your mood as well. Physical activity increases serotonin, which often makes you feel calmer.
- Remember what matters most.
For many divorcing couples, the fights and bitterness that they may have for each other are overpowered by the love of their children. You and your former spouse may find the motivation to work together to find solutions that work for everyone if you keep your children’s needs at the forefront of every decision you make.
Topham Family Law can help you through the divorce process. We can help you keep your real priorities at the top of your mind. Contact our team to learn more about what we can do to assist with your family situation.